Recovery Enthusiast/ Recovery for Women

 Hey guys, I've just had an exciting, busy, scary, huge growth kind of week! I had joined this 5-day challenge with Tony Robbins, Dean Graziosi, and Russell Brunson . Woah, the mind is blown! Now you're probably thinking, "ya Doreen, those guys are professional, motivational, hype guys, and they are good at selling you a dream." The truth is, I already had the dream. I've been talking myself out of that dream for years. They are good at what they do, and I want to be just like them. I know I'm a late bloomer. They started really young, and I'm almost 50, but I don't care. I am taking the plunge. I am all in! If I fail, I will keep trying to the day I die. I'm done with the naysayers!! I'm done with not taking risks because I'm too scared of failing or what people will think. I will develop a successful business on motivational workshops and help people in addictions reach their full potential,  and I'll do that by emulating the pros...

 So I've been doing some research on the "Growth Mindset" concept. When I listened to an audible by Jen Sincero titled You Are a Badass, I first heard of Growth Mindset. In psychology, they have termed the growth mindset as someone who believes they can learn anything through hard work. Success is not achieved solely on innate ability. Except in sporadic cases of strong genetics, our genes don't define anything about us. We have incredible influence over our skills and abilities, far more than we think.  Psychologist and author Dweck compare the growth mindset and a fixed mindset. Those with a growth mindset believe that they can get smarter, more intelligent, and more talented through putting in time and effort. On the flip side, a fixed mindset is one that assumes abilities and understanding are relatively fixed. Those with a fixed mindset may believe that intelligence can be enhanced or that you either "have it or you don't" when it comes to abilities...

  I Was Misinformed by the Misinformed. I was told that I need to get motivated, that when you're motivated, you can do anything. How exactly does one get motivated? Let me tell you some of the ways it doesn't, at least for me. Eating your Wheaties, setting your alarm 5 or even 10 minutes earlier than you need to get up, pray, jog, read self-help books, positive affirmations, and my favorite CAFFEINE!! Okay, so maybe the Caffeine helps a little, but I didn't realize that motivation comes from doing something, usually something you don't "feel" like doing. I think what I didn't understand that motivation is an action, not a feeling. Nobody  wants  to wake up at the butt crack of dawn to go jogging. Ok, not anyone that's sane anyway. We don't want to work every day, even if we like what we do for the most part. I'm trying to say that we do the things we do because we are motivated for better. Whether that be better health, a better career, to be ...

 As I sit here on a beautiful Sunday morning, I wonder what stops me from being the amazing, successful person I want to be? I read a lot and watch all kinds of motivational talks, so I desperately want to be a motivational speaker. I know I have a lot to offer, and I'm told I run excellent groups at the facility I work at. So why do I feel like I'm in my own way?  I suppose a lot has to do with the negative self-talk I still have chattering in my head. The " you don't really think you're smart enough to pull that one off" talk. As a child, I struggled in school and barely got by. When I look back on those years, though, I tend to think that I really had given up trying. Learning was too much work for me (of course, I didn't realize that every other child felt the same way). I was never encouraged or challenged as a child to do better. Now I'm not going to sit here and blame my parents for not instilling a love for learning here because not only did th...

What is it about hitting a milestone in your life that makes you freak out?        I remember turning thirty and thinking I'm a stay at home mom, I need to have this perfect home, be the perfect wife and all will be well. Ok miss Cleaver how did that work out for ya? By the time I hit forty I was full blown alcoholic in rehab and not home and kids not speaking to me. I've done a lot of stupid stuff that led me to that point. Stuff I can't change.       And so now here I sit 48 going on 49 and feeling like Whoa, where has my life gone?! Now I did clean up my act. I now work as a case manager for an addiction treatment facility and my kids do speak to me. I actually have a grandson that has stolen my heart. I am blessed. I live with my sister and her husband, which isn't the worst thing in the world but I want more. I'm also in school trying to better my life. But like I said I want more. Every time I think about wanting more my heart races and my ...