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What to Do When You're Feeling Lonely

During the pandemic, loneliness has spread almost as fast as the virus. Along with that, if you are like me and single, it can be even more depressing. The world may be starting to open up, but they will never be the same. But that ok. We don't have to reminiscence about the "old days."  If you are overwhelmed because you don't know how to navigate finding a partner post covid, I have some suggestions for you. Also, knowing that being single, even if you 49 like me, does not mean you are broken or something wrong with you. You also don't need to go searching for a partner just because you are lonely. I have suggestions for that too.

 

While recent events have created new challenges, loneliness has long been a part of daily life. It's natural to need a community and a sense of belonging. However, these feelings are manageable.

 

Learn how to deal with loneliness when you're alone or in a crowd. Then, try these 14 simple things that will help you to feel more content and connected.

 

Connecting with Others 

The quality of your relationships matters more than the quantity. Build a network of support where you can feel loved and cared for. You can fill the need for companionship with friends and family.

 

Try these techniques: 

  1. Stay in touch. Make your family and friends a top priority. Block out time to spend together regularly. Take the initiative to plan outings and parties. Set up weekly coffee dates and phone calls. Cultivating friendships is important. Relationships take work no matter who the relationship is with; family, friends, significant other. It takes some effort, but the rewards are definitely greater in the long run.

  2. Open up. Allow yourself to be vulnerable. Express your thoughts and feelings. Talk about sensitive subjects. Pick a quiet time and place. Slow down and listen to each other.

  3. Maintain boundaries. Healthy relationships are based on respect and trust. Understand your limits when it comes to personal space and making commitments. Let others know how you expect to be treated.

  4. Express appreciation. Strengthen your relationships by showing gratitude and affection. Thank others for their kindness. Recognize their talents and accomplishments.

  5. Volunteer your services. Helping others puts your own troubles into perspective and makes you feel more connected. Sort cans at a local food bank or go grocery shopping for an elderly neighbor.

  6. Join a club. Find others who share your interests. Start a running group or browse through Meetup for events that interest you.

  7. Prepare for transitions. There are times in life when you're more likely to feel lonely. If you're moving to a new city or getting divorced, be proactive about staying engaged.

 

Appreciating Your Own Company 

Do you enjoy spending time alone? Treating yourself like a beloved friend will help you see solitude as a positive experience and relate more successfully to others.

 

Keep these ideas in mind: 

  1. Accept yourself. There's a difference between being alone and being lonely. Value yourself for who you are. Let go of judgments and embrace your feelings.

  2. Build your confidence. Think about the purpose of your life. Clarify your values and use them to set meaningful goals. Give yourself credit for making an effort.

  3. Limit screen time. Do you use your devices to distract you from your thoughts? Put your phone away for a few hours a day. Turn your TV off unless you want to watch something specific.
     
  4. Continue learning. Devote your extra free time to acquiring new knowledge and skills. Take courses online or attend classes at a local university. Read books and listen to podcasts.

  5. Find a hobby. Fill your leisure time with challenging and enriching activities. There are hobbies to match any kind of interests or budget. Browse through magazines or ask your loved ones what they enjoy doing.

  6. Seek balance. Most adults need some time to socialize and some quiet time for themselves. Find the schedule that works for you.

  7. Consider counseling. If you have these feelings much of the time, it could be a sign of more serious issues such as depression, and professional help may greatly benefit you. Call the free federal hotline at 1-800-662-HELP to find resources in your area.

 

Loneliness can have serious consequences for your physical and mental health. If you feel empty and isolated, reach out to friends and family or talk with a therapist. You deserve to have positive relationships with yourself and others.

 

And finally, know that where ever you are on your journey, you are right where you are supposed to be!

  

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As always, stay blessed and live your life Enthusiastically!!

 

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